Reflective listening
Reflective listening is a vital part of motivational interviewing and involves interpreting what clients say to strengthen their motivation for change (Day et al, 2017). It is meant to close the loop in discussions to ensure that breakdowns in communication don’t happen. Some people find it helpful to use standard phrases in reflective listening, such as:
- So you feel…
- It sounds like you…
- You’re wondering if…
There are three levels of reflective listening that may deepen or increase the intimacy of a conversation:
- Repeating or rephrasing: The listener repeats or substitutes synonyms or phrases, and stays close to what the speaker has said
- Paraphrasing: The listener makes a restatement in which the speaker’s meaning is inferred
- Reflection of feeling: The listener highlights the emotional aspects of communication through feeling statements. This is the deepest form of listening.
Varying the levels of reflection is effective in listening.
Reflective listening may be a useful strategy to use with older people who have ‘heard it all before’. Change may be difficult for older people because they have familiar patterns of behaviour and may be anxious about the risks of changing their behaviour.
Avoiding the ‘righting’ or ‘fixing’ reflex
A strategy called ‘elicit, provide, elicit’ is useful in motivational interviewing and can help the healthcare professional to avoid providing unsolicited advice. Elicit, provide, elicit involves finding out what the patient knows, providing extra information if required, and then asking the patient what they think or understand about the specific area under discussion (Miller and Rollnick, 2013). This approach allows the practitioner to build on what the patient already knows.